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The Patron Effect

Humans have the tendency to associate themselves in groups with similar dispositions, and to ultimately feel accepted in a society that claim their systematic faith (or spirituality) as correct.

I guess it answers the question as to why we choose certain friends in our circle, or why we join certain syndicates as adults.

We’re social animals with a need to feel a connection, belonging, or that we relate to the society we live in. We also enjoy categorizing—something humans have been doing as a means of survival because it allows us to understand and interact with the world around us, seeking out the similarities and differences to make sense of people and things.

In simple terms: you judge, whether you say you judge or not. It’s how you make friends; it’s how you create like-minded groups. It’s why you post that blog or caption where you assert your beliefs or ideas as correct, because you know you’ll be agreed with. Same goes for this entire blog post—perhaps I’m comfortable posting my thoughts for a reason.

I do wonder how groups and societies shape restrictions and boundaries, and whether our life and worth are based on experiences or individual biased perception that is confirmed by validation.

I also question whether every syndicate needs a form of evil, an opposite, a yang to it’s yin. Every religion has a form of a devil, every political party has it’s opposite, for every scientific discovery there is an anti-vaxxer in its path, and for every spiritual society that worships astrology and crystals, there’s a quiet black sheep that wonders if this is the city she belongs in.

Speaking on a personal experience, I’ve always felt lonely and incapable of joining groups. I’ve always felt like a difficult target anyway, since I ask too many questions.

But perhaps it’s the media, notorious for the flagrant bias when depicting different syndicates not of their liking to blame. It’s as though we’ve all been injected with this Dunning-Kruger effect, where we’re all wrongly overestimating our knowledge in specific areas.

My mom says that when you age, you become quieter. You’re aware of unexplainable life experiences, so although you sound less passionate and less opinionated, you keep to yourself to live a life of peace.

It’s like Socrates said: the only true wisdom is knowing you know nothing.

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